After betrayal, what now?
Counselling after an affair — whether you want to rebuild together, part well, or make sense of it on your own.
Written by Elza Berk, Founder & registered counsellor · ASCHP WCW/271 · 20+ years’ clinical experience · Updated 28 September 2026
Discovering an affair can feel like the ground has disappeared. Shock, rage, obsessive questions, sleeplessness and self-doubt are common. For the person who strayed, there may be shame, confusion and fear of losing everything.
There is no single right outcome. Some couples rebuild a relationship that is stronger and more honest than before. Others decide to part. Both are possible, and both deserve support.
We work with individuals and couples to understand what happened, rebuild trust where that’s the goal, and make decisions from a steadier place.
We support
- The partner who was betrayed
- The partner who had the affair
- Couples deciding whether to stay
- Emotional and online affairs
- Rebuilding trust step by step
- Separating with respect
You don’t need a diagnosis to reach out.
How we work with you.
Stabilise
Getting through the first crisis weeks without making things worse.
Understand
Exploring what led to the affair without excusing it.
Decide & rebuild
Choosing a path — and walking it with support.
Choose who feels right.
Omashree Balie
Specialist Wellness Counsellor
“Seeking counselling is personal, difficult, and sometimes lonely — but the results are life-changing. I aim to make that journey as comfortable as possible.”
- Couples & marriage
- Divorce
- LGBTQIA+ affirming
English · Afrikaans
Mimi Shirindza
Registered Counsellor
“Every person carries the capacity for growth and renewal. My role is to walk alongside you as you rediscover and strengthen those inherent gifts.”
- Trauma
- Grief & loss
- Couples
English · Xitsonga · isiZulu
Megan Andrew
Registered Counsellor
“I offer a safe space where clients feel heard and supported to better understand themselves, navigate life’s challenges, and move towards meaningful change.”
- ADHD & autism
- Perinatal support
- Trauma
English
Risimati Chauke
Social Worker
“I create a safe, non-judgemental space where clients can process their experiences and find practical pathways toward healing and resilience.”
- Addiction (harm reduction)
- Trauma
- Crisis intervention
English · Xitsonga · Tshivenda · isiZulu · Sepedi
Talita Kondlo
Registered Wellness Counsellor
“I take a compassionate, client-centred approach — creating a safe space to explore emotions, heal from the past, and build healthier ways of coping going forward.”
- Trauma
- Couples
- Anger management
English · isiXhosa · isiZulu
Jamie-Leigh Brickles
Registered Specialist Wellness Counsellor
“Counselling is collaborative, and at its core it’s about your heart. I believe we all have the answers deeply rooted within us; sometimes we just need the courage to reach for them.”
- Anxiety
- Grief & loss
- Trauma
English
Elza Berk
Founder & CEO · Registered Counsellor
“I built MyTruth because I needed it then and it didn’t exist. Every counsellor here has been chosen for their capacity to sit with what is real.”
- Addiction (harm reduction)
- Trauma
- Eating disorders
English · Afrikaans
Common questions
Can a relationship survive an affair?
Many do, with honesty and commitment from both partners. Counselling can help you find out whether yours can.
Can I come alone?
Yes. Individual sessions are often helpful before or alongside couples work.
Will the counsellor take sides?
No. A couples counsellor supports the relationship and both people in it.
Your truth deserves to be heard.
Choose a counsellor who speaks your language and understands your world. Sessions are online, private and booked in minutes.